Congratulations are in order!

I just received an email from Kirk and Stephanie McConnell. They are expecting a little bundle of joy around August! It's very exciting, and for those of you that know Kirk, terribly frightening! Kirk as a daddy??? All joking aside, if you see them or hear from them, make sure you offer your congratulations. I know that the child with be blessed to be in such a wonderful family!

New Year's Resolutions

Every year I do this. I have had the same resolution for the last 3 years: Diet and exercise. One year I joined the gym and I went 3 to 5 times a week for about 2 months. I loved it. I felt great. Then I went on vacation for a week and never went back to the gym. I was paid up for a year and it was a big, fat waste of money. Last year, I started with a basic diet. No soda, no fried food, lots of veggies, fruit and salad with fat free dressing. I got bored and hungry (see previous "gravy" post).
This year, I have once again made it my goal to diet and exercise starting January 1st. Okay well, that's my birthday so January 2nd. But I have that day off and I can't start on a day when I have nothing to do. So here I am already making excuses for why I can't do it. I have also spent this past week packing on as many last minute pounds as I possibly can. I've had apple pie (about a half of one) an entire batch of homemade banana pudding, 3 twenty ounce bottles of Coke (just today in fact), Carrabba's for dinner last night, and a dozen trips to the Wendy's drive thru (it's right across the street). I also had a handful, okay two handfuls, of Hersey's kisses. I'm out of control! I just want to be skinny again. I remember those days at EC, taking a late night trip to Arby's or Waffle House, eating every fried and fattening thing I could and chasing it down with a Jamoca milkshake. AND I NEVER GAINED A POUND!! The day that I turned 25 I could literally hear myself getting fatter and I haven't looked back. I am unhealthy, which is the biggest thing (other than my thighs). I never have any energy. I would rather come home and take a nap than any other thing in the world. So this year starting January 3rd, I will start exercising and eating healthy. I will drink water and take the stairs. I will go to the gym at work because it's free and I will go back to my yoga and pilates classes that I attended for a week 3 years ago. I will do it and I will like it. And I will be comfortable in my skin again! And if I hate it...Well then I will resort to trying to find out where I can catch a nice eating disorder or a tapeworm!

Merry Christmas???

It doesn't feel like Christmas this year AT ALL!!! First of all, I live in central Florida. It was almost 70 degrees here today. I wore a sweater anyway just because it should be cold, it's five days to Christmas!!! I just did my Christmas shopping today and let me tell you that Target five days before Christmas, is a nightmare. A lady with a crazed look in her eye practically tried to wrestle a fire truck out of my kung-fu grip! It was the last one and it was what my nephew wanted. I wasn't leaving there without it. Apparently when I turned my back, she thought my cart was fair game and tried to take it! I was appalled. I let her know that it was no longer available. Once it hits someone else's cart, it become off limits, consider it sold. It was just so frustrating! I had to get the tree and decorate it on my own this year because of the situation with Brian's stepdad. He got really behind in his school work for his Masters and just didn't have the time to help me with it. My sister came and helped me though, which reminded me of my childhood. That was cool. The last reason it doesn't feel like Christmas is because I will not be able to spend it with the person I love the most. Brian needs to be with his mom right now and I don't have any time off work to be able to go with him. We are celebrating tomorrow night with dinner at Cracker barrel (my favorite) and then coming home to open our gifts. I will be here with my family, which is always nice because there is nothing like seeing my nephews open there gifts! They get so excited and rip into the paper so quickly it's dizzying. Then we play with their toys all day.
I know the true meaning of Christmas, I know what it's all about. Don't get me wrong, I am unbelievably grateful for the birth of Christ. I am thankful for my family and that I will be with them on Sunday. I will just miss my husband so very much. I never thought that we would ever spend another Christmas apart. When we first started dating, he went home for the holidays. We had only been together for a few months and he was only gone for three days. It was awful. I think that I will be inconsolable this time.
I'm also having a birthday in two weeks. I don't care about my numeric age, I just hate birthdays. I don't usually have a party or cake. In fact the last time I had cake on my birthday was when I was at EC and Kristi and Jamie Cain baked one for me and the two of them sang to me. It was very sweet. I just don't get into birthdays anymore for some reason.
All of that being said, I do love this time of year and I wish all of you a merry Christmas. I promise that after the new year rolls around I won't be such a "wet blanket" with my posts.

Thank you!

Thank you very much to all of you that have sent your love and prayers. The funeral was Monday and it was a very beautiful service. There were about 400 people there. One of the perks of living in the same small town your whole life is that you know everyone. It was amazing to see everyone come out to take care of Brian's mom during this time. It was comforting for us to know that she has that kind of support system. She has to be the strongest person I've ever known. As difficult as this has been for all of us, she has managed to smile and thank God for the 5 years they were lucky enough to have together. She doesn't know why it all happened but she truly believes that God will take care of her and that this all falls into his plan. It's unbelieveable to me that she feels that way. I don't know if I could. As much as I like to think that I trust God and that everything fits into his plan for us, I can't imagine that, in a situation like this one, I would be so able to smile and believe. She was most grateful that she was with him and held him while he drifted off. She was able to tell him how she felt and that she loved him. Some people lose loved-ones and never get that chance. It's been a very difficult last two weeks and I know that there will be rough days ahead. Brian is going up there to be with her during Christmas break (he's a teacher) and help her out around the house. I will miss him but I know that it's necessary. Thanks again for your thoughtfulness. My immediate family may be small, but my extended one is infinite!

Kenyon McKenzie

My mother-in-law, Madeline, and Keny's two sons decided yesterday to take Keny off of his life support. This process began at around 3:00 pm. For several hours, he was able to breath on his own, but his breaths were very shallow. He died at around 9:30 last night. Brian and I were having a Christmas party when we got the news. All of our close friends were here and we were very thankful for that. They have been very supportive and it was nice, especially for Brian, that they were here. Madeline is understanably very shaken. I could not imagine being faced with that type of decision. She is such a strong woman. She is going through a range of emotion and has questions that can't be answewred. But she trusts that God is holding her. Brian and I talked last night about the importance of teaching our kids about Keny and the man that he was. He was wonderful and warm, gentle and sweet. I miss him.

Latest

We are currently in Savannah checking in on my father-in-law. The extent of his injury is more sever than I realized. He had massive hemorrhaging in his brain which caused a severe brain stem injury. The doctor told us today that they can keep him comfortable for as long as the family wishes but he won't regain consciousness, never be able to swallow on his own, and never have any brain activity again. No one has ever recovered from a brain stem injury that is this serious. My mother-in-law, Madeline and Keny's two sons have been discussing how long they should wait before they take him off life support. He isn't in any pain, which is a wonderful thing. He doesn't deserve to for even a moment.
Brian and I have to head back to Florida in the morning. We know that we need to save our days at work for bereavement leave very soon. It will be very hard for us both, especially Brian, to leave his mother here. Madeline has had a very difficult life. She is one of the strongest people I have ever known and always thinks of others first. She welcomed me into the family immediately and has made me feel as if she was so honored to do so. She said tonight that she doesn't know why God has allowed this to happen to her, to her family, to the love of her life, but she trusts him so implicitly that she will let God direct her path from here. She feels honored to have been married to Keny for the last 5 and 1/2 years and knows that God gave him to her for a season, to prove that he had her under his watchful eyes.
I know that God can work miracles. So if you pray, that is what you will need to ask for. Also, Madeline could use some strength and peace of mind right now, as could the entire family. I am trying to be strong and supportive for my husband, but we are at the point where we are all just crying together. Please just keep us all in your prayers.

Prayer request

My father-in-law had a stroke today. I don't know all the details except that he is unconscious but breathing on his own. He is in the hospital in Savannah, GA. His name is Keny McKenzie and he is the most wonderful man you will ever meet! We may be heading up there in the morning but we are not sure yet.
I will keep you all posted.

Church Search

I realize that I haven't posted about the church search so I thought I would fill you in. After week one of the search, we had a hurricane that came through so we were unable to attend. The week after that, I sinned and skipped church to go to a Bucs game. I know that my priorities are a little out of whack seemlingly, but if someone offers you a free ticket to a Bucs game, the general rule in our house is that you go. Last Sunday we went to a Baptist church. The preacher was a really nice guy. As far as the music, I knew I was in serious trouble when the pastor introduced a new song to the church--"Shout to the Lord". For those of you that went to EC, you know that we wore that song out about 10 years ago. So they were a little behind the times as far as that was concered. Thus the search continues. I did enjoy the message though. It's an interesting process. With all of these trial runs, I am getting a perspective from a variety of different preachers and I like that, for now. This weeks church is still up in the air. We have asked around for different favorites in the area so we are trying those out. I have taken a more open mindset though which is helping me to enjoy the search a little more. It's not such a chore and it's not as frustrating as it was at first. We just have to be patient until we find our home!

Life as it happens

Okay...here it is. I am about to turn 29 on January 1st which I am okay with, but I have decided that I want a baby, much to the dismay of my husband. We have talked already and decided to wait until he is done with his Master's, which will be in a year. We decided that we are going to start trying next summer. But out of NOWHERE, I really, really want to have a baby. I love kids and the best thing about them so far is that I can always give them back to their parents when they smell funny or I've had enough. I have two nephews that I adore, ages 6 and 3. I have 3 friends with baby boys ranging from 4 months to 15 months. I love them all. BUT I want a girl, again much to Brian's dismay. He said that if we have a girl she will not leave the house until she is married and won't be going to silly things like the prom or homecoming. I think this means he will be a little overprotective. I think I am just tired of buying boy things. I can only get so many Matchbox cars and GI Joe's. I do want one of each and have always thought it would be nice for my daughter to have an older brother to look out for her, but I just want a girl!!!
Brian is a couple of years younger than me, which could explain why he isn't quite ready. I know that he will be a great father though. Our struggle now is when we talk about names for our children. We have a couple of very cool girl names but no luck on the boys yet. We have very differing opinions and every time I suggest a boys name he says that he knew a guy in high school that he hated by that name. Every one he picks is either an ex-boyfriend or just awful!
Anyway, I am trying to be patient and wait for next summer. I can, however, hear my clock ticking! And not to mention, I hear that the "tryin' to get pregnant" is GREAT!!!

ggrrrr!

There are some very simple things in life that just frustrate me to no end. I live in Florida, the retirement capitol of the world, which really sucks when you are trying to get anywhere. At some point in life, I hope that someone will take my license when I shrink down in size so much that I have to sit on a phone book to see over the steering wheel. I went to lunch with a friend today and on my way home, I got behind what appeared to be an empty car doing 20MPH in a 35 zone. I knew that it must be November and the Snow Birds were migrating back. I also noticed the Michigan tags on the empty car. From now until March, I will have to leave my house 20 minutes earlier than normal to get anywhere on time. When this car finally got into the turning lane and I was able to get around it, there was a little man who was roughly 107 years old, with his cataract glasses and mouth wide open, holding himself up on the steering wheel. Inevitably, the light turned green and he sat through the arrow and then pulled out in front of someone as the light turned yellow. The other car slammed on brakes and swerved and Father Time was oblivious. Reason number 4,768 why I hate Florida.
Part of the problem is that I am just not a fan of the elderly. I know this is harsh but I didn't really have grandparents growing up. Both grandfathers had died before I was born, and I didn't see my grandmothers very often growing up. I just never got to hang out with any old folks. I know that the elderly want to keep their independence as long as they can and hold on to the hope that they aren't going senile. BUT there comes a time when you should embrace your decrepitness, slap on a giant adult diaper and move into an adult care facility, or with your children. And start taking the bus, for the love of all things holy!
I have decided that when I am old, I will be more than happy to become a burden to my children and grandchildren. I will demand medication and regular feedings of tapioca pudding (Phillip Bowen style), and sit in my own feces until someone notices the stench and decides to change my diaper. I have no pride or shame. The way I see it, I will have done it for my children and they can owe me one. And if my parents called me today and told me the couldn't get around anymore, I would do the afore mentioned for them. It's the circle of life. I would also take away their car keys for their own safety, mostly out of concern that one day someone like me is not going to be able to control the road rage and just start ramming into them.
An elderly lady had to go to driving school for a ticket and when asked about the three lanes of the interstate, her explanation was that the right lane was for short trips, the left lane was for long trips, and middle lane was for every trip in the middle. True story. Ridiculous!

Jake's little cone

Separation anxiety

Somehow we have ended up with a dog that has separation anxiety. He was licking his paw so much that there was no fur on it so I took him to the vet yesterday and she said that he has separation anxiety! I had no idea that dogs could get that. They put one of those cones on his sweet little head (pictures to come) so he can't lick and if it doesn't heal up in two weeks, they want to put him on Prozac! It figures that I would end up with a crazy dog. He hates me now because I was the one that took him to the vet. The biggest problem is that the cone on his head makes him more clingy than he was before. It's a no win situation but he looks cute in his giant blue cone!

The words we choose

Last night Brian and I were having a conversation about some things in our marriage. It wasn't an argument, but just touching base about a couple of different issues. It was late and we were both tired and I wasn't really thinking clearly. I spoke without thinking and really hurt his feelings, I think. He got out of bed and let the dog out immediately. I knew as soon as it left my mouth that I had not chosen my words carefully. I couldn't seem to fix it after that either. I tried to explain what I meant, explain away my poor choice and I couldn't. We agreed that we should just go to sleep and talk about it today, which we haven't gotten to do yet because he is at work. (Oh yeah, I am unemployed right now, sort of)

I really hate that I let my mouth move faster than my head. Growing up, there was a lot of yelling in our house. That was the way we communicated and argued points. But the point got muddled by the yelling. I dated a guy once that would not even talk to me when I started this irrational behavior and it frustrated me to no end. I wanted to yell! I thought it was necessary to make my point. If I could yell louder than anyone else, I would win the argument just on that merit. Thank God I got over that! Brian hates yelling also so we discuss things. We keep to the subject and try to be calm and rational. We have the most well-thought out arguments, always being mindful of the others feelings and trying not to stray from the issues.

But last night I really just blew it and I can't take it back and I can't fix it. I know that we will talk about it this afternoon and all will be well. I just think that too many times we can save our feelings and other people's if we just choose our words carefully. I like to think that I have a pretty broad vocabulary since I have an English degree and study law, but it becomes negated at times in the heat of the moment and I speak to send daggers. I say those things that I can't take back and even choose words that don't encompass my point. I get twisted around the idea that what I am saying is so important that I need to get it out of my mouth now, without taking a moment to consider the consequences. I don't listen, I just want to talk because (especially with Brian) if you can just hear my side, which is so magical and perfect and absolute, you won't need your argument at all. You will agree with my brilliance (all of this said sarcastically).

I think that from now on, I will do what Jesus did and take a moment to draw in the dirt, collect myself. I know that I will continue to say things the wrong way and that I will hurt more feelings throughout life, but perhaps if I can spend a moment drawing in the dirt before I speak, I won't have to eat that dirt later.

Week 1-The Search...

I feel like I am starring in my own reality show with this one. I shall call it The Search. Brian and I started out this week to find a church that suits our needs and desires. We both have different things that we look for. I need good music and would love to find a choir to sing in. Brian looks for a teacher that is challenging and intelligent, scholarly. We both are looking for, what we have started calling, The Meat. We need substance. I was raised Pentecostal and Brian has a mixed background starting with Presbyterian and going to Assemblies of God. He and I both have been very open-minded about what the other needs. We have gone to a Presbyterian church, even though there are quite a few (okay a ton)of things that neither of us agrees with about the doctrine. But the pastor is great and he doesn't talk too much about the doctrines from the pulpit. Each time that we have been, however, there has been one thing that has caused me to get on the defensive, whereas for Brian, it makes him grab his Bible and study to find out the basis and attempt to approve or refute that information.

So Sunday we visited a very charismatic nondenominational (but very Pentecostal) church here in town. The Choir was amazing and the Band rivaled Dave Matthews Band. But we never got to The Meat. There were several things about that service that disturbed both Brian and me, especially the 35 minutes of prosperity preaching that preceded the offering. 35 minutes to take an offering? I couldn't believe that there was more time spent on the offering "sermon" then on the worship service. I know that for some people, this is all fine and good, but for us, it was time to go. We left before the preaching even started. When we left, we sat in the car in the parking lot and I cried. I told Brian that I want something insightful that I can take with me into the week, not the hype that makes me feel good for a couple of hours but doesn't spark change. We prayed together in the car that God would lead us to the church that is right for us. I just want to be taught and challenged.

I am all for the church that is excited. I am an emotional person and I have been known to cry my eyes out in a church service. I don't hold back. I just need more than a good feeling. I need more than a preacher that shouts without substance. If your going to shout, do it, but say something that I can take with me through the week or through my life. We know that there is no perfect church. But we also know that when we find where we are supposed to be, we will know it.

So next Sunday, The Search continues...

Baseball season

I recognize that my Red Sox are now out of the playoffs. No defending the championship. No talk of a dynasty. I am sad, however, there is a joy that swells up in me just knowing that THE YANKEES WON'T BE THERE EITHER!! HA HA HA (I hate the Yankees)

The 80's

I don't know what is wrong with me. I haven't posted in several days. I haven't been ill or out of the country, just living my "Groundhog Day" over and over. The good news is that I have a job interview on Thursday and I am really keeping my fingers crossed on this one. It's slightly out of field for me but it's a substantial raise at a good company with a lot of opportunity for advancement. It looks good for me and, get this, they pay you more just for having a college degree!! (See previous post)
This past weekend was my sister's 30 birthday and my dad's 69th. My sister decided to have an 80's flashback party. I had almost forgotten how ugly we all were back then but I was quickly reminded. I cut the neck and sleeves out of my sweatshirt, teased my hair, put on my stretch pants and my skirt, and loaded up on pink and blue makeup. And my God, it was awful! I turned the corner in our house and Brian was terrified. He decided that if he had known me in high school, we would not have been friends. He missed a lot of the 80's experience. He is a few years younger than I am. He graduated high school in 1997 and I graduated college in 1998 (but I was 16 when I went to college, I only robbed the craddle a little bit). Yes, it does make me feel old! Anyway, I hear rumors that the big hair and parachute pants are making a comeback in Europe. A friend of mine just got back from a trip there and said that it's the old new thing that's "in". Let me say that I will revolt with every fiber of my being before I perm and tease my hair again. I will not wear socks with my high heals, and no socks with my Keds. And I will not wear jelly bracelets on one arm and bangles on the other! I may wear jelly shoes though. They were cool and I had them in every color. The 80's had few good things to offer. I would like you to give me a list of your favorite and least favorite things about the 80's. If you're not old enough to remember first hand and you only know about the 80's from watching the new classics on Nick at Nite, you get no opinion!
Favorites in no particular order
1. One-hit wonders
2. Afore mentioned Jelly shoes
3. Colored mascara (I really like that)
4. The Joshua Tree (U2 at it's finest)
5. Monster Ballads
6. ...That may be it, I thought there would be more

And I hated
1. The big hair (so much maintenance!)
2. Tight-rolled jeans (cut off the circulation)
3. Super-sized sweaters and shirts, with undersized pants and skirts
4. Those gloves with the fingers cut out (I had them though)
5. Rave hairspray (I know you feel my pain on that one girls)
6. High top tennis shoes
7. The end of disco (I love disco)
8. Shoulder pads (so unnecessary)
I'm sure there are plenty more and will chime in after I get your lists. Make them as long or short as you would like to!

FRIDAY!!!

Let me preface this post by saying that I am medicated. It's prescription and I'm not abusing it. I threw my back out badly so I'm taking some muscle relaxers. Thus, if the blog seems a little more incoherent than normal (if that's possible), I have an excuse.

I am watching game 3 of the Red Sox/White Sox series. It's do or die time, down 2-0. We are at home though which is plus.

Today on my way home, I put on the Christian station and there was a preacher talking about the cost of gas these days and comparing it to marriage. When he said the words, "Fill up your love tank", I had to draw the line. I can only handle so much of that. Maybe he had good things to say, but the "Love Tank"??? I just couldn't do it.

I got an email today from a friend of mine from EC. We have just recently gotten back in touch. We were talking about people that I dated and he said that, for the most part, girls just prefer to date "assholes". I had to think about that for a minute. There are very few girls that I know of that just intentionally date guys that are losers. Don't mistake that to mean that everyone I dated was a gem, because there were definitely some BIG mistakes made. For example, the time I went on a date with a guy that told me that he had broken up with his girlfriend. She and I weren't the best of friends but I would have never gone on that one date if I had know the truth. They were still together and I had no way of knowing that. I told a couple of people that we had gone out and the next thing I know, I was getting pulled aside in chapel to talk about what I did. I felt awful, but it was not at all my fault. I didn't have any fun on the date anyway and had no intention of going on another one, even before I found out he was still in a "committed" relationship. Then there was the guy that wooed me with his sweet words, presented himself a certain way to lure me in, and then decided to give me a huge dose of reality. I should have known that he hadn't really changed all that much but by that point, I had my pitiful little heart involved. He brought me down in so many ways. He was a nice guy and anyone that knew him would say that about him. But he was a terrible boyfriend! I once drove 5 hours to surprise him on Valentine's Day and I was just so very proud of myself. When I got there he was so shocked to see me, and not pleasantly shocked. I had gifts and he had the gift that his roommate bought for his girlfriend that he borrowed to give to me. Nice guy, bad boyfriend. I stayed with him and was miserable, but I thought he was cheating on me and it became my goal to prove it. Several years later I saw him and we went to dinner. I asked him straight out and he fessed up. I had my closure. There was also the friend with benefits. At EC we called it "Arb". At Southeastern College, where Brian went it was called NICMO (non-committal make-out). Now, as a girl, this was not at all how I wanted things to be. It happened with more than one of my guy friends, unfortunately. I always thought that the natural progression was that we were friends and once we kissed, it would dawn on him that he had loved me romantically the whole time (like on Monica and Chandler). I was wrong about that for sure. Those hurt the worst because then the friendship was ruined. I regret that I allowed myself to want more than friendship with two of those people specifically, because things were never the same. I would rather have the friendships.

I think that too many girls get a bad reputation for dating guys that treat them poorly. It's usually a pattern, different face, same relationship. That pattern usually stems from insecurity. A girl may seem very sure of herself, even pompous, and pulled together, but that doesn't mean that she isn't just a great big faker. When you're insecure about any area of your life, be it physical, intellectual, emotional, financial, pretty much anything, it spills over into your relationships with the opposite sex. I think that there is a misconception that most girls that are insecure have been physically or sexually abused, or that they have bad relationships with their dad. I know that in a lot of cases this is factual, but insecurity in anyone can be caused by the most miniscule of things. For example, and this is going to sound silly, but I went walking one day for some exercise around a lake in town. It's a pretty busy road but there is a path around the lake for people to bike and walk. I had on some shorts and a t-shirt, hair pulled up, looked like everyone else out there. A car full of guys drove by and screamed at me out of the window. "FREAK!!!" That was all they said and it made me so self-conscious! I began to wonder if I walked funny or if I was just hideous out there. I couldn't figure out why someone would call me a freak! I have returned to walk around the lake but I always think about that day and I am careful about what I am wearing, how my hair looks, how I'm walking. It's so stupid, but it made me insecure.

Regardless, I feel very sorry for those people that date the "assholes" but everyone deserves someone, right? It just needs to be a case where mean people date other mean people and leave the normal ones alone.

The latest...

Today was a pretty ordinary day. Not too much going on. However, on my way home I was listening to the radio, typical. I had it on the local Christian station and there was a commercial that came on that seemed to be somewhat humorous to me. It was for a seminar to learn how to become a wealthy Christian. Now let me preface by saying that I don't think Christians should be poor and I see nothing wrong with being an extremely wealthy Christian. That was not where the humor was. That came from the fact that the 4 hour seminar cost $200.00 per person. They suggested using your weekly tithe money on this seminar to learn what the Bible has to say about being prosperous. I chuckled to myself. If you are a Christian, and you're poor, can you really afford $200.00 for a seminar about becoming wealthy? Should you really spend money that you would normally give to your church, the place that spiritually feeds you, on what I feel is a lottery ticket? Do we need to have this? I know that traditionally, a great deal of Christians feel like they have to be economically lacking. Store up your treasures in Heaven, sacrifice earthly wealth for what is to come. Give all that you have to help those less fortunate than you are. I would love to be wealthy, unbelievably, filthy, stinking RICH! I don't think it would make me happy...well maybe a little bit, but it's not what I'm going for. I would personally rather be secure in my eternal future than my retirement fund. I know that money is important to everyone, believer or not. I just don't know that it should be such a focal point, for anyone, believer or not. What happened to "Money is the root of all evil"?

I'd rather have exactly what I have right now. I think that if I were going to spend that much money on a seminar, I'd rather learn about spiritual gifts or how to develop a closer relationship with God and my husband. Maybe I'm alone in my thinking of this. Let me say again that I think that Christians should have just as much, if not more than anyone else in the world. I truly believe that God looks out for us and takes care of us and supplies us with what we need to sustain ourselves. If you are a Christian and you're loaded, good for you. Thank God for what you have. I just have major issues with the focus of so many preachers these days. No, I don't think that Christians should be poor, but do we need a seminar that costs $200.00 to help us become rich Christians? Should the most prevalent part of the church service be taking the offering? Giving to God and the church is important. Don't get me wrong about that. I think that everyone that attends church should be a contributor.

The commercial also said that some believers just don't have the faith that it takes for God to make them rich. Is that God's job? I'm asking because I really don't know. I can't ever remember reading anywhere in the Bible that God will make me wealthy while I am here on earth, but that doesn't mean it's not there. In fact if it is there and there is some thing that I should be doing to get rich, please, someone let me know!

What it all boils down to is that if I am struggling financially and I come into $200.00, I'm going to give it to my church, or a needy family or the hurricane victims and I know that God will look down on that and smile and reward me. Maybe not financially, but with a feeling of knowing that I have helped someone in need. I have made a difference in a life. Now maybe the plan is to go to the seminar and turn my $200.00 into 2 Million and then give it to the needy. I don't know..I just don't get it. I'll take your opinions now.

Today's ramble

Brace yourselves--this could be a long one! This is pretty random, stream of consciousness.

I am on the hunt for a new job. I have a BA in English and a paralegal degree from the University of Miami, so one would think that, because I have an education, I could find a job. Sadly, that's just not the case. Everyone wants someone with experience. I am currently working in a law firm, getting the necessary experience. However, I was just passed up for a promotion by a girl with no college degree and no litigation experience (which is what I went to school for), but she is bilingual. I understand that is an important thing, especially in Florida. I just think that there should be some merit to an education. To top it all off, I asked for a raise and was told that I would get one in December. I can wait until then. Then I found out how much it would be...3%. I make nothing right now. I took the job for the experience, and I also took a $15,000.00 a year pay cut from my TEACHER"S SALARY!! If you know any teachers, you know the one thing they always complain about is the salary. You do the math. So I'm back on the hunt. It appears as though I am going to take a job that is out of my field, but that has a lot of potential for advancement. And they pay more money to people with a college degree and I really appreciate that. Job hunting is close to the top of my list of things I really hate, just below moving and doing laundry. I have a lot to offer but getting the interview with little experience is a difficult thing to do!!

I went to visit my parents today. They live about 5 minutes from me and yet I only go visit about once a month, if that. I feel like such a bad child. They are understanding about it. They know that I'm usually very busy. I talked to them for a long time about different things and I started to think about the relationships that we have with our parents when we become adults. As a child, a teenager, and a college student, all I ever really wanted was for them to be proud of me, especially my dad. I appreciated the approval of my mom. She was always very vocal about it though. My dad would tell me that he was but my mom was more consistent about it. Now that I am adult, my need to please them is still there but it's very altered. I still want them to be proud of my decisions in life, almost because I want them to feel like they did a good job raising me. They are getting older (aren't we all?) and I worry about them a great deal. My dad had a heart attack a few months before my wedding and it didn't look good. I was so worried that my daddy wouldn't be there to give me away. I felt so selfish for thinking that way but that's something that every girl wants. He had to have a pacemaker put in and still has problems breathing from time to time. My mom, on the other hand, has always been the strong one. She is a fighter for sure. A few weeks ago, she was in the hospital with some stomach problems. It turned out to be two ulcers. The problem was that the doctors were so vague about what was happening, so I automatically assumed the worst. That's just my nature. I can't imagine the condition I will be in the day that something happens to either of them. Yet they are right around the corner and I don't see them very often. It's a conundrum for me. But I don't think that they ever question that I love them and would do anything for them.

On a completely different note, I have these two friends that I went to college with that I am still very close to, Tracy and Cyndi. I miss them both so much today. I think of them everyday, but some days, I need them more than others. Tracy and I were roommates in college and then for another year after I graduated. She is one of the most constant things that I have in life. I see her a couple times a year, if I'm lucky. We just live too far apart. She is one of the few that knows all there is to know about me, especially my flaws, and she loves me still. I appreciate that in her. Cyndi and I went through a phase in our friendship where we didn't speak. I don't even remember why but I'm sure she does. She joined the army and went to Germany and we kept in touch while she was there. We talked every few weeks. She's another constant. She has been through a lot of really rough times and she keeps her head above water somehow. She is invincible in my mind. I'm very proud of her. There are few people in life that find friends like these two and I consider myself so fortunate to have them. They are cherished. They are my family. If either of you happen to read this, know that I love you and it's time to pack your stuff up and head to Florida for a little fall vacation!

The Case for Christ

I am about to join a book club and The Case for Christ is the first thing we are reading. Anyone have an opinion to offer about it? I've read several reviews online, mostly from atheists who, obviously don't like the book. Just wondering if anyone has an opinion for me before I get started.